January 30, 2006

Monday evening, 30 January 2006 [6:00 p.m.]:

Hey there, sweetheart!

First of all I’m going to say that I miss you, miss you, miss you. A year ago today you were in Vancouver and you and the family sort of had that photo get together – that’s when that photo of you with Kisa in front of Alison’s house was taken. Sometimes it seems like it was years ago, sometimes it only seems like last week.

Well, things haven’t worked out with Don R, which is a shame because we got on well. I’m not going to take the time or the energy to explain what happened – it’s not even worth the effort. But, we did go camping and there were heaps of wombats around the place at night – I got a hell of a kick out of watching them. They are very, very cute. (Did you know I have a wombat ring?)

And then there was the fly-fishing!!! (Boy, did I ever wish you were there as my instructor!) The night before we left I copied out three of the knots that I’d need to know – I thought that I’d go insane tying that "perfection loop" knot in my fine, tapered leader. And I kept going down to the river and just casted over and over to get the feel of it. One night I kept on until it was just too dark and got a hell of a knot in the line. Don R got out a little tool for extracting splinters from his first aid kit and did a fantastic job of helping me untangle my line. Like Andrew says, my Shakespeare line is pretty crap and I will have to replace it, the leader, too, most probably.

The weather was bad while we were away and only started clearing up when we were on our way home so the hoped-for myriad stars never eventuated. ;-( Too bad, I was really looking forward to seeing them. And, by extension, of being closer to you as we said.

I can’t find the wrapping paper that the parcel that you sent to me was wrapped in and it had Don’s details on it (your Don I mean this time). I’ve got to write him and I want to write Ken, too, but not just yet. I think I will leave it ‘til April to write Ken, by then he should have distanced himself enough from what was happening this time last year for me to intrude on him. How great it was to have him put his life on hold in order to be with you and help you out so very much like he did. Yet another top bloke that was fortunate enough to call you ‘friend’.

I missed out on Venus tonight – I think that she went to have an early beauty sleep. But Mars was out and so very, very red! I missed the bat’s nightly flyover, too. I hadn’t seen the stars in awhile so it was extra good to see them.

Things at work are so political and I just hate it. Same thing going on in the Sydney Uni Bushwalking Club – they are tearing virtual strips off each other right now regarding a constitutional meeting tomorrow night. I am really surprised, I would have expected a bit of cohesion from a group whose stated aim is enjoyment of the outdoors.

Hon, I’ve got to go but I sure miss you. Having the scrapbook with so many of our emails and copies of our Messenger sessions and your photos is such a comfort to me you’ve got no idea! I really worry about Jessi and hope she’s got some things of yours, too, to make it easier on her. I think that I told you that THE HAT will be going back to Jess if anything happens to me; Warwick and I have talked about it. Let’s hope he does a better job getting in touch with Jess than Alison did in getting in touch with me. Alison is so different to you, Keith – she doesn’t respect a Promise for one. And that whole bit with your Dad’s obituary – where was the fairness in that? Oh, well, it doesn’t matter; it doesn’t affect me anymore so I don’t have to worry about her. (But I do have to admit, she bloody hurt my feelings, that’s for sure – in spite of me telling Don that she didn’t. I hate to lie but he was concerned and I didn’t want him to worry about me. Somehow the word "hurt" isn’t quite the right one anyway.)

K, gotta go. For what it’s worth, I love you heaps. I am so thankful everyday that we met and I got to find out what an amazing man you are – you are sorely missed and dearly loved by many. Enjoy every minute your new life in the stars, free from pain and disappointment.

All my love (and that’s a lot!)…

- Susan
P.S.: My new down sleeping bag arrived in the mail less than two hours before we left on the camping trip. It’s one of those new compact down ones that fits into a special compression bag so it’s just tiny when it’s packed. I’m sure it will be fine for the Skeena.
P.P.S.: In case you forgot - I love you! ;-)

January 24, 2006


"New" picture of me (taken June 2005). Best thing about this one is that you can see most of my rings, oh, and that I've got my glasses on. (Well, the other one from then doesn't have them so I guess it's a bit fake-y that way.) Posted by Picasa

early Tuesday morning, 24 January 2006 [12:15 a.m.]:

Hi, honey.

Don R. and I are going camping in the morning and I stopped on Fly Anglers On Line to find out what sort of knots I’ll need and the first post on the bulletin board was from a large-ish guy asking about chest waders. I replied about your BARE ones and included a link to OutdoorReviews.com where they had heaps of brands. (It felt nice to be able to help out, even in a small way.)

Then I went on to Jim’s knot section and started breaking down the animations into frames and pasting them into a Word document for printing. And it happened. The room filled with that smell that your hat had when I first opened up the package with the stuff that you sent me. It was amazing – it sort of had a cigar-like smell and the room just filled up with it. And then I got it – you were here with me, weren’t you? I was doing the fly fishing thing and you thought you’d come and pay me a visit. Thanks, hon, I really appreciate it. It took a long, long time for me to ever think that I was ever worth anything at all and now I find that I’m even worth a visit from you! It may sound loopy or corny to those that might not understand but anyone who knew you and those that knew me, especially the me that I was before I met you, will know how significant it really is. Maybe only Clayton’s people will understand it, I don’t know. When we talked about these sorts of experiences you never said what Jess believed or Don or anyone so I don’t have a clue if they’d understand. Oh, well, you and I do and that’s what matters.

K, handsome, I have to go and keep getting stuff together so I won’t be too tired in the morning. Don (the Sydney one) is going to have a go at teaching me surfing – yippee! Our campsite is on a river (hence the fly rod) and about 45 minutes from some great beaches, some great for surfing. Hope the weather is OK (and no bush fires). I bought two bikinis and you should see the little denim mini skirt I bought – it looks really good on me with a tight fitting top (but wouldn’t want to wear it on an escalator – LOL!) but then I know you are right with me and have already had a good look. Good on you, you devil! ;-)

Love ya’ heaps –

- Susan, your Tiger Woman

January 18, 2006

early Wednesday morning, 18 January 2006 [12:05 a.m.]:

Keith –

While I was walking on campus today, I was thinking how thankful I am that you showed me a way to live in the world that is so harmonious with others and with nature. God and the angels just missed you, sweetie, and they just had to call you back home.

As it gets closer and closer to the twelfth, I am finding it harder to cope. I miss you so. I am going to tell Don R about you soon and I hope I can get through it OK.

One year on and, if anything, I love you more. Visit me when you can and when you want to ‘cuz I miss you. Here’s a hug ‘cuz I know you like ‘em: {{{hugs}}}.

Your fan club down here loves you –

- Susan

January 16, 2006

Monday evening, 16 January 2006 [7:30 p.m.]:


Hi, there, handsome – whatcha been up to?

Look, it’s been a whole week since I wrote. It’s been weird the way I’ve been missing you lately. When I woke up on Sunday I am sad to say that I felt nothing, absolutely NOTHING. I didn’t feel one single thing for you, nothing at all. It lasted for about two hours and was very strange after everything that I felt over the past year and a bit. Then the feeling gradually came creeping back – and in the evening I got out your journal and had a read from the 17th of December 2004 up until 21st January 2005. Well, the feeling came back, all right. It was great to read some of our messages and a quick read is enough to remember what a lovely bloke that you are – you have the nicest personality, Keith. You are one awesome package. I also got out that moose print sweatshirt that you sent to me – I love the way that it and your hat smell like you. Sometimes when I smell you it feels just like you are giving me a great big hug – remember all those hugs you used to send me on Messenger? Keith, I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t miss the crap out of you after everything we went through together.

That lack of feeling thing didn’t last very long – right this minute I am sitting here with teary eyes and wet cheeks. You gave your best to everyone and there are so many people who love you and miss you. As I was settling in to bed last night I got to thinking about how I would have done anything to make you well or to have made everything better. Depend on it, Keith, I would have done anything. If only you would have let me try.

There was a funny part in what I read – you said, "And when you reach your full potential just remember who kicked your butt". Yup, Keith, I’ll remember. You said some nice things about Ken then, too. Lovely to be able to go back and re-read this stuff. Too bad I don’t have any other MSN Messenger stuff before the 21st of January – I have forgotten so much and it is such a damned shame.

Just before I started this I was on Fly Anglers On Line (http://www.flyanglersonline.com) – honey, they are such a nice bunch. They have been really nice to me. Some of them know that I knew you. I’m hoping that after my trip I’ll be able to write an article or two for the "Our (Wo)Man in Canada" section. I keep hoping that Jessie will come on but I’ve never seen her and I don’t know what nickname she uses.

Going to go – Ruffie is here making a fuss so I guess I better go check the food bowls.

I miss everything about you, sweetie. You know what they say, "Don’t be a stranger". Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to see you in the stars lately because of all the rain.

I will never stop loving you, Keith, no matter where my life takes me. I will always try to keep my promises.

Stay well –


- Susan

January 09, 2006

Monday evening, 9 January 2006 [10:00 p.m.]:

Hi, honey.

Just wanted to tell you that I’ve been missing you a lot. I need to get out my scrapbook and have a look at the letters and messages we were sending to each other this time last year.

I’m really tired and I had a really weird New Years’ (the less said, the better I think!). Yesterday I went to work with Stephen (next door neighbour) spray painting industrial equipment – we worked on a concrete pumper. Met a guy named Alex (implicated in the NYE disaster) and another fellow named Don who had me ‘round to his place on Friday night and then he went with me on Saturday up to Umina Beach to pick up a single bed that I had gotten on eBay for Wozza’s old room. Fixing it up for an international student.

Honey, I’ve got to go – I really need to have an early night, I am totally buggered. And I’m all achy and bruised from crawling all over that truck yesterday. But, hey, I’m going to get $180 tax free for it so it’s worth it.

‘bye, Keith; I’ll write again soon. I’ve seen you in the stars almost every night and I’ll meet you there again tomorrow. Love –


- Susan